relay: admit loopback and the host itself before the DROP

The bridge-subnet-only pair dropped the host's own health probe
(source 192.168.0.143/127.0.0.1) and failed a healthy deploy. The
deployer now installs the full set: ACCEPT 127.0.0.1, ACCEPT the host
IP, ACCEPT 10.89.0.0/16, then DROP.

serverAppConfigs-docs/Infrastructure/Alertmanager.md

@@ -19,7 +19,7 @@ Alertmanager receives firing rules from Prometheus, groups and dedupes them, and
 
 ## Why the webhook address is `host.containers.internal`
 
-The Signal relay is a host-side process, and the address it must bind is the one detail this design gets wrong twice (2026-09-17). From a bridge container, loopback is the container's own, and netavark DNATs *published* ports only — so a relay bound to 127.0.0.1 refused the first webhook with `dial tcp 169.254.1.2:18093: connection refused`. The obvious fix — bind `host.containers.internal` itself — fails too: on this host netavark runs its bridges in aardvark-dns' netns, so 169.254.1.2 is not a local address in the host's namespace (`OSError: [Errno 99] Cannot assign requested address`). What works: bind the **host's LAN IP** (192.168.0.143) — netavark delivers the container's `169.254.1.2` dial to that address (proven with a probe socket: container → `169.254.1.2:18094` → host socket bound to `192.168.0.143:18094`, while the LAN IP refused from the container, the usual netavark quirk). Since that puts an unauthenticated endpoint on a host interface, the deployer installs an iptables INPUT pair admitting 18093/tcp from the podman bridge subnet (10.89.0.0/16) only — the rest of the LAN gets a DROP.
+The Signal relay is a host-side process, and the address it must bind is the one detail this design gets wrong twice (2026-09-17). From a bridge container, loopback is the container's own, and netavark DNATs *published* ports only — so a relay bound to 127.0.0.1 refused the first webhook with `dial tcp 169.254.1.2:18093: connection refused`. The obvious fix — bind `host.containers.internal` itself — fails too: on this host netavark runs its bridges in aardvark-dns' netns, so 169.254.1.2 is not a local address in the host's namespace (`OSError: [Errno 99] Cannot assign requested address`). What works: bind the **host's LAN IP** (192.168.0.143) — netavark delivers the container's `169.254.1.2` dial to that address (proven with a probe socket: container → `169.254.1.2:18094` → host socket bound to `192.168.0.143:18094`, while the LAN IP refused from the container, the usual netavark quirk). Since that puts an unauthenticated endpoint on a host interface, the deployer installs an iptables INPUT set admitting 18093/tcp from loopback, the host itself (its own health probe) and the podman bridge subnet (10.89.0.0/16) only — the rest of the LAN gets a DROP.
 
 ## The Signal relay
 
@@ -36,7 +36,7 @@ The Signal relay is a host-side process, and the address it must bind is the one
 ./scripts/deploy.sh dankclaw --service alertmanager
 ```
 
-`deploy_observability` installs the quadlet unit, `copy_alertmanager_config` installs the config, and `install_signal_relay` copies the user unit, installs the iptables pair, enables and restarts the relay, then waits on `192.168.0.143:18093/health` before the container's own `/-/healthy` wait. The planner selects `alertmanager` for its quadlet file, `shared/prometheus/alertmanager.yml`, and the two relay files; `prometheus` ships the `alerting:` block that points at `alertmanager:9093`.
+`deploy_observability` installs the quadlet unit, `copy_alertmanager_config` installs the config, and `install_signal_relay` copies the user unit, installs the iptables rules, enables and restarts the relay, then waits on `192.168.0.143:18093/health` before the container's own `/-/healthy` wait. The planner selects `alertmanager` for its quadlet file, `shared/prometheus/alertmanager.yml`, and the two relay files; `prometheus` ships the `alerting:` block that points at `alertmanager:9093`.
 
 ## Gotchas