fix: gitea boot persistence via quadlet (incident 2026-08-16)

unattended-upgrades rebooted dankclaw at 15:01; the legacy
podman-compose gitea stack had no systemd units, so rootless podman
did not auto-start the containers. Gitea was down ~1 hour.

- add quadlet units (dankclaw/gitea/quadlet/): gitea-postgres,
  gitea-server, gitea-caddy + gitea.network (DNS enabled; the default
  rootless podman network has dns_enabled=false)
- add gitea stack Caddyfile (upstream gitea-server:3000) and
  .env.example; live password stays in /opt/gitea/.env (0600)
- fix latent name bugs in main stack config: DATABASE_HOST
  gitea-postgres, Caddyfile upstream gitea-server
- docs: rewrite Gitea page for the quadlet stack (management, boot
  persistence, secrets, gotchas, incident log); fix port 3000 in
  stack table; Postgres connection notes
- legacy compose retired on target to /opt/gitea/.deprecated/

dankclaw/gitea/.env.example

@@ -0,0 +1,4 @@
+# Gitea stack secrets. Copy to /opt/gitea/.env on dankclaw (mode 0600).
+# The live password never enters this repo.
+
+GITEA_DB_PASSWORD=changeme