agent: repoint roles to frank-medium/dankclaw-3090; sync niri tweaks, memories, managed skills

- config.yml: default/commit -> frank-medium (dankserver); task/tiny/smol/vision -> frank-small (dankclaw-3090); vision xhigh
- models.yml: add llamacpp (dankclaw-3090) provider; frank-large preserve_thinking + context notes
- niri: focus-ring/border/shadow layout, hot-corners off, re-add noctalia.kdl include; blankpad eDP-1 scale 1.0
- memories: flush rollouts; retire frank_large + marreta_authentik skills; add auth-chain/kv-pool/quadlet-log skills
- managed-skills: 40+ new fleet runbook skills
- agent/skills: import built-in skill set

agent/skills/grilling/SKILL.md

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+---
+name: grilling
+description: Grill the user relentlessly about a plan, decision, or idea. Use when the user wants to stress-test their thinking, or uses any 'grill' trigger phrases.
+---
+
+Interview the user relentlessly until you reach a shared understanding. Map this as a **design tree**: every decision branches into the decisions that hang off it.
+
+Work the tree in **rounds**. The **frontier** is every decision whose prerequisites are already settled: the questions you can ask _now_ without guessing at answers you haven't heard yet. Ask the whole frontier in one round: number each question and give your recommended answer. Then wait for the user's answers before the next round.
+
+Format a round like so:
+
+```
+❓ **Q1** - **<question title>**: <question body, might be multiple paragraphs, including multiple choices>
+
+➡️ <your recommended answer>
+
+---
+
+❓ **Q2** - **<question title>**: <question body, might be multiple paragraphs, including multiple choices>
+
+➡️ <your recommended answer>
+```
+
+Each round the user answers reshapes the tree: settled decisions push the frontier outward and unblock questions that depended on them. Recompute the frontier and ask the next round. A question whose answer depends on another question still open in this round belongs to a _later_ round, not this one.
+
+Finding _facts_ is your job, never the user's. When a frontier question needs a fact from the environment (filesystem, tools, etc.), dispatch a sub-agent to find it; don't ask the user for anything you could look up yourself. Don't block on it: a running exploration is an unsettled prerequisite, so only the questions downstream of it wait for the sub-agent to report; ask the rest of the frontier now. The _decisions_ are the user's: put each to them and wait.
+
+The session is done when the frontier is empty: every branch of the design tree visited, nothing left silently assumed. Do not act on it until the user confirms you have reached a shared understanding.